Photo Tutorial – Short Cross Carry with a sling ring

The Short Cross Carry with a sling ring (sometimes referred to as a Front Cross Carry with a ring) was my go to carry with a shorter wrap with Isaac from around 3-8 months. I liked that it was a “poppable” carry and can be achieved with a shorter wrap. The sling ring acts as a lock so carry is a knotless one too. I wanted to write this blog as a photo tutorial. There are hundreds of wrapping videos but I know that videos do not work for everyone.

Stage One – Preparing the wrap

Thread the sling ring over one end of the wrap until it is in the middle of the wrap. When the sling ring is in the middle take time to pleat the fabric through the rings to neaten the fabric. This will help prevent the wrap from twisting and help ensure a neat looking carry.

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Next, loop the fabric over your shoulders so that the ring is placed in the centre of your back. Again, tidy the wrap by gathering and then cross tails.

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Holding the sling ring to keep it flat use the other hand to take first wrap pass and take it over the top of sling ring before going through and pull down towards the floor so that you have a 90o angle. Before repeating this with the second pass. This takes some practise to get the ring to stay flat. If you don’t achieve it the carry will not be knotless as wrap will move freely in ring.

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Once again tidy both passes so they are smooth and not twisted. Tighten your bottom rail. The bottom rail is the part of the sling which is in the middle as it comes out of rings.

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Find the positon where you are most comfortable in having the sling ring by lifting the fabric from shoulders and moving it up and down.

Create slack and space for baby by pulling fabric back through ring. Be careful not to introduce too much slack. You want just enough space to put baby in. Thread excess slack back over shoulders and through ring. Use praying hands to double check you have enough space for your baby.

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Stage Two – Putting baby in the wrap

Pick up your baby and place on the shoulder of the top pass so that first underneath pass is visible and accessible.

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From the bottom of underneath pass, reach up and find babies foot and bring this through the pass. Ensure the fabric is in their knee pit.

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Lean forward slightly and move baby to other shoulder and swap supporting hands. Then bring babies foot through as per last step. Let the wrap take babies weight with them sitting on the cross passes to allow their bottom to drop lower than their knees.

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Supporting baby underneath their bottom using the hand of the top pass, use free hand to spread the bottom pass until your supporting hand is covered. Place free hand on babies bottom and then slide covered hand out from under the fabric and complete pulling across babies back.

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Remove excess slack by supporting babies weight and working strand by strand across width of wrap. When slack has been gathered up feed this towards ring by leaning forwards (while supporting baby) to pull slack through the ring. As this is a carry with a cross pass the slack goes under the opposite leg to the shoulder it came over initially. Then pull the slack through ring by pulling on the tails.

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Supporting baby underneath their bottom using the hand of the bottom pass, use free hand to spread the top pass until your supporting hand is covered. Place free hand on babies bottom and then slide covered hand out from under the fabric and complete pulling across babies back.

Finally tighten strand by strand and work to rings. The carry is now completed.

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At this point our final checks are that their airway is clear (you can flip shoulder to keep them visible), that they hands are up near their mouth, fabric is in knee pits and their pelvis is tilted. Check that fabric is smooth on their spine and that you are comfortable too.

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Stage Three – Removing baby from the wrap

Remove shoulder flip if you have included one, then un peel the top pass and then the bottom pass so that baby is sat on (and still supported by) the cross pass. Supporting babies back when the wrap is not covering them gently lift them out of wrap.

Why does a bit of fabric mean so much?

Just over two years ago I wrote this blog for the Natural Mamas website: “But it’s just a bit of cloth“.  Since then many more bits of cloth have made it into this house. Isaac is now 3.5 and not carried as much but when he is I still love the flexibility of a woven wrap and often a ring sling too. The memories are even more special the more infrequent they become.

I have owned lots of different wraps but can I make a confession? I have never owned a handwoven, a Pamir or an Artipoppe for example.  Although I have holidayed and played with some of them. I haven’t wanted to own one. That does not mean I have always brought standard line wraps and have owned some limited editions and harder to find slings. My beloved Didymos Silver Geckos 6 took 18 months to find.  This lack of High End wraps doesn’t make me any less or more of a wrapper than someone who has only ever used a SPOC or a budget brand. We are carrying our children. That is all that matters. We are holding them close when it matters.

Wrapping has helped me stay sane. From the early days of a Velcro reflux baby, to wake up from naps, during post op recovery, to mundane things of walking the dog and doing the school run. It has let Isaac attend social events from the security of mummies back. Even today at 3.5 he was a little daunted by an event. But cuddles in our ring sling let him get used to where he was before he chose to go and play.

This week however I have taken delivery of a Woven Wings Leaf Gold Geo and paid for a Pavo Textiles wrap.

The WW is for the sling library  but the Pavo is for me. Why have I just brought it? Well it is called Coy Hearts. My surname is Coy.  I felt it would be the perfect way for us to end our carrying journey. I just hope Isaac has the same feelings. I suppose it will be a legacy wrap. Lots of people want to know what their legacy wrap is. Often believing it has to be the one release on the day their baby was born. It what if you don’t like it? What if there wasn’t one?  A legacy wrap can be anything if you like it, anything that means something to you. I am dreading the day our carrying journey comes to an end. So I suppose I should enjoy the cuddles while I can and make the most of them.

What’s new at North East Sling Library

I have been quite on the blog for a few weeks. The school holidays mean time to catch up with my kids and also my husband (he is a teacher).  But they are now drawing to a close and I am beginning to think about getting ‘back to work’. I say back to work, more back to the library fully as I haven’t really stopped. I did cancel all but 3 sessions during school holidays and have enjoyed time away with my boys and Natural Mamas Big camp but now its time to get fully back into NESL action. 

 

So what is new? What is happening?

Firstly I am now an approved retailer of ErgoBaby products and Close Parent products in addition to the ability to order Boba, Beco, Moby, Scootababy, Hana Baby and Connecta Baby Carrier products. I can’t offer as greater deals as the larger retailers but by ordering through me you know you are getting a legitimate product with the knowledge to show you how to use it properly.

Next we have broken the 250 sling barrier. At Natural Mamas Big Camp I came back with a boot full of goodies. This included another Toddler Solar Connecta Baby Carrier, a standard Solar Connecta Baby Carrier, two more Connecta and a new Fidella Fusion full buckle carrier. There has also been the arrival of several more in the days before – more Ergo Baby carriers and a selection of stunning Ring Slings – Oscha Starry Night Daisy, Oscha Roses Damson and Roses Dusk, with more to follow.

   

And the biggest news! No I am not expecting. But North East Sling Library now has uniform. You will never be in any doubt over who is who at sessions as this week T-shirts/Polo Shirts, tunics, dresses and hoodies for me and my team, plus Demo Doll Isaac arrived. The hoodies polo shirts/t-shirts feature our names and role too. Some of you had a sneak peak at Durham City Sling and Nappy meet but they will be launching fully from next week.

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Finally when and where can you find NESL in the next few weeks?

Our next drop in session is Wednesday 26th August between 10-12 at NESL HQ, 13 Brecken Way Meadowfield Durham DH78UZ. There are no 1:1 consultations now available until the first week of September (3rd September). From Monday 7th September we will be offering appointments on 1st and 3rd Monday of each month. For availability and booking for 1:1 appointments please visit our booking website.  Library drop in sessions for September are as follows:

Wednesday 9th 10-12 Meadowfield
Saturday 12th 2-4 Meadowfield
Monday 14th 11-1 Miss Tina’s Washington​
Wednesday 16th 10.30-12 Birth & Baby Network​
Thursday 17th 10-12 Durham Marriott Hotel Royal County​ for Durham City Sling and Real Nappy Meet​
Wednesday 23rd 10-12 Meadowfield
Monday 28th 12.15-1.30 Consett Tesco​ community room.

Postal hire continues to be available too.

Best wishes everyone and enjoy the last few days of the holidays.

Rachel

In celebration of our Carried Big Kids

Picture1Anyone who has read my blogs, or who follows my Facebook page will know that my babies are not babies anymore.  My ‘carried baby’ is now 3 but he is carried almost daily and over recent days has been carried even more than normal. A combination of the heat and not sleeping very well (probably also heat related) has meant Isaac has wanted cuddles with his Mummy and Daddy just that bit more. I have no qualms in carrying him when he needs it or when it makes my life that bit easier.

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Isaac opts for daddies shoulders and Henry asked for a cuddle after a full on morning at Centre Parcs climbing trees.

There are plenty of 3 year olds who are still transported by their parents in a pushchair, and also countless who get a piggy back or ride on a carers shoulders. Why should being carried in a sling be a seen as any different? All babies, no matter how old need and want that security. The research has shown that those who are carried develop secure attachments which helps promote brain development and independence. Anyone who witnesses my two boys running off to play in the park or cycling so fast I can’t keep up will know they are not clingy; they are secure in the knowledge that I am there and that they can explore.

You can imagine my disgust at a recent photograph that has been circulating on social media of  a Mum carrying her 5 year old while out shopping. Although uncommon, carrying my 5 year old in a carrier is something I do on occasion. The photograph was secretly taken by a shop assistant and then shared on her Facebook profile shaming the mother for carrying her child and pushing her baby in a pushchair. This photo has been shared in several groups I am a member of and has attracted attention from around the world. One post on Netmums Facebook page had over 300 comments when I last looked.


There are several reasons why I dislike this photo and why I will not share the photo itself in this post; although you can read more about it and see the picture here. Firstly the photograph was taken and shared without permission by an employee as she worked. Who thinks this is a good idea? And why did she have her phone with her anyway? Secondly, the comments she wrote in attributing the photos were full of hate and disgust. It is nobody’s right to question how I or the mum in that photo parent our children. Finally does it really matter if the 5 year old was having a carry. Would the shop worker have snapped a photo the mum if she had her little girl on her shoulders or was giving her a piggy back? Exactly what is the difference here? The only thing I can see was that she was being carried in a standard size sling (a Tula Baby Carrier) rather than a specifically made toddler or preschool carrier. But the Tula has been tested to use to 45lb, (my 5.5 year old doesn’t weigh that), so there is nothing unsafe about carrying an older child in a standard sling as long as within weight limits and comes sufficiently up their back to stop them falling out and this sling does.

Carrying our big kids is clearly something lots of the mums and dads I work with do. Our toddler and preschool carriers (weight wise many go to 24kg which is way past preschool) are some of the most popular I have. People hire them for holidays, long walks, day trips and sometimes just so they can have a cuddle without having to hold the full weight of their child; ideal if you have disabilities or medical conditions for example. I asked the patents in my Facbook group to share their stories and their photographs in celebration of their big kids. Here are just some of their stories and reasons to carry their big kids.

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Firstly we have Jeni and her little one, she said that sling cuddles are important because:

“Hands free, slingy cuddles are still great at 26 months and totally beats a buggy in city centres. This is us in NYC last month.”

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  “tired and grumpy and needed a rest.”

Jillian carries her 4 year old when needed, although on this day trip Daddy got the duties and his back saved his arms.

David b“We still wear our almost 4 year old because sometimes little legs get tired when we’re out on adventures and nothing beats a Daddy (or Mummy) slingy cuddle (and it’s loads easier than carrying her in your arms!!) “

Sarah T said  one of the reasons why she carries her older child is because “They say they definitely want to walk. They don’t want you to take the double buggy, then they get tired….and other times it’s just a lot safer in large crowds. I don’t want her to be trodden on, or possibly worse, to escape!” Surely that is a good enough reason to carry our children.

One of the most common reasons we found were because our big kids were poorly. Here is Becky J’s husband carrying her little boy (3.5 years in the photo) because he was unwell with chicken pox and wanted some fresh air. In this photo they are using a standard size baby carrier (an Ergo Baby Carrier) just like the mum was in the photo which prompted this blog. becky

Thank you to all the mummies who shared photos and their reasons for carrying older children. I hope that the person who took the original photograph to criticise a mum just going about her normal business will realise that #carryingisnormal no matter what the age of our babies, after all no matter how old our children are they will forever be our babies. I have collated some of the other photographs in this video.

Do I need to be a great wrapper?

Something I have been pondering recently is should I, as a carrying consultant, be able to wrap perfectly, in every situation, with what ever wrap I am given. Should I know how to do every single variation of a front, back, hip or tandem carry there is? Should I be expert at each “finish”?

I regularly teach wrapping and I enjoy doing so. I am a wrapper at heart. I love fabric, the feel of different threads, woven seamlessly together. When I am teaching wrapping I am often teaching the same carries. These carries form the stock of any wrappers toolkit. They can be replicated easily and I  can troubleshoot them without  difficulty. These carries are the basics which I feel need to be mastered before sending my clients off into the big world of babywearing. We spend time discussing tightening methods, benefits of bunched or sandwiched shoulders and the types of passes which are the building blocks of any carry. Occasionally I have a client who wants to focus on a carry I do not do regularly or I may have never done.  Then I revise, I ask colleagues and most importantly I practise. Before a workshop or consult I practice. One of the benefits of being a Slingababy consultant, for example, is the twice yearly CPD we can attend, the opportunity to revise with others for our collective benefit.

Since I started wrapping there are now a plethora of new wrap companies and a seemingly endless list of “new carries” with weird and wonderful names. Over the last few days I have found myself revisiting a range of different back carries to revise my skills, watching lots of videos and flicking through Pinterest. My wrappee is now 3 years old, so wrapping on a personal level it is not something I do daily.  Although Isaac is wrapped infrequently these days,   until he was around 2 it was almost all we did.  Now when I am wrapping him I do panic and say to myself “what will people say”, I feel as if every time I wrap it must be perfect.

When I am teaching I use dolls. There is quite a difference between  wrapping a dead weight to a wriggly 3 year old. With the dolls I learn and teach the steps and passes for each carry, the dolls let me and my clients master the techniques.   Does it matter that sometimes I struggle to do them with Isaac when historically I have always found it easier with a live model?

I am internally wrestling these thoughts. Does not being able to do certain carries matter? I sometimes feel that we need to step back, not keep reinventing the wheel. For a new wrapper the array of different carries can be daunting, does it need to be that way? Is teaching wrapping all about being an expert wrapper? I have far more knowledge of wrapping now than when I was wrapping several times a day. What are your thoughts? I don’t think I have the answer?