My carried baby isn’t a baby anymore

Today we are celebrating Isaac’s 3rd birthday. Technically it is not his birthday for another 8 days but this was the only day we could arrange a party for his friends. 

Three years ago I was feeling very fed up and sick. As timehop points out we had curry for tea 3 years ago in an attempt to get things moving.  

I had been quite poorly from 24 weeks pregnant. Firstly with a prolapsed disc and secondly with an infection that caused my uterus to contract from 33 weeks to 37 weeks.    I was fed up, especially after Henry arrived at 37 weeks. Those last weeks of pregnancy were horrible. I just wanted my baby here and here safely. Every day from 37 weeks onwards was “oh is this it?” I knew from 37 weeks I could have the home birth I had planned.

Isaac I knew would be carried from birth. He arrived at some point between 1.35am and 1.40am on Friday 27th April. We don’t know the exact time as he was a BBA birth and was a good 10 minutes old before paramedics arrived and it was another 30 minutes before first midwife arrived. He may have kept us waiting but when he did arrive he made up for it. First inkling something was happening was 12.15am but labour seemed a way of. Officially labour lasted 18 minutes and that was a bit of a guess, because really how many of us actually check the clock when labouring alone? 

But early morning arrivals are not really when you want to start practising wrapping a newborn. I hadn’t started carrying Henry till he was 4 months old. And I simply wanted a shower and my bed. We enjoyed skin to skin for a couple of hours but then bed! He got his first sling cuddle 8 hours after he arrived. Although neither of us really got any sleep before then. 

 

Isaac has been carried almost daily since then and in the early weeks almost exclusively carried. Issues with breathing and feeding meant I wanted him close, he need to be close. He has been NESL’s real life demo baby but now he is more interested in carrying his babies.

 

At almost 3 our carrying days are drawing to a close.  My heart aches for another baby to carry. Unfortunately that is unlikely to happen. I will simply have to enjoy the memories and keep helping others share their cuddles. Treasure every cuddle you get. Babies don’t stay babies for long.

  

Things I am not…

Just re blogging this as couldn’t agree more

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I’m not a Hippie!

Nor am I;
a ‘Crunchy Mom’!
an Attachment Parent!
an Earth Mother!
a Dolphin Parent (no really!)
Everywhere I look on the Internet lately, people are given labels!
I’m sure the people who pass me, out on my walks with our two dogs and Pookie tied to my back, make their assumptions about me! Maybe they even have a name for me. I know I’m guilty of such things…take the running man with long dreadlocked hair I used to pass daily on my way to work or the lady we called Heidi who wore ‘different’ clothes to us and cycled everywhere with her two children in a trailer on the back of her bike. They both came up in conversations years later along with stereotypical views on their lifestyle.
Well now I feel a little guilty for making assumptions, putting labels on people and putting…

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Summer Slings and Keeping Safe in The Sun

Love this blog by Dr Rosie Knowles from Sheffield. I am being asked a lot about wearing in heat. Although as I sit in car while my son has rugby practise with a temp of 6oC on the car thermometer and it’s pouring with rain summer and heat (other than that coming from car heaters) are far from my mind.

Using a ring sling: where to adjust and how to tighten.

I love ring slings. Whether I am carrying  a small baby or an up and down toddler. But they can take some skill and perseverance to get them right. Small tweaks and tips will help make them so much easier to use.  This blog isn’t going to go into specifics of shoulder styles and fabric as but focus on the technical bits which can be used with any ring sling.

The Rings!

As ring slings are adjusted and locked in place by their rings, it is important to focus on them. They should not be made from welded rings and should be specifically made for this purpose. They can be made from aluminium or nylon. Welded rings can break where they have been joined.

welded rings

Welded rings – can you see the break?

Preparing the sling for baby

Place the rings on the shoulder opposite the hip you want to carry baby on, or for chest to chest carrying the shoulder you feel most comfortable. Ideally you will switch shoulders each time you carry. The weight of the ring  will help keep them sat on your shoulder. Bring the tail to opposite side. At this point check you are not twisted by holding rings in one hand and top rail in the other before pulling the fabric across your back. It should move only at the top.

To thread a ring sling you take the tail (unstitched part) and thread it through both rings from the bottom up, before threading back through one. Ensuring you keep fabric neat and untwisted at all stages will help make it easier to tighten.  While you are learning slings with differing colour top and bottom rails will help make this easier too. I personally take the tail up onto my shoulder before threading through second ring so I can see any twists.

     (Photos by NESL)

When you have threaded through both rings take  your thumbs underneath the fabric between rings and spread from middle to rails again ensuring you are not twisted.

With thanks to Rosie @Sheffield Sling Surgery

Once threaded the top rail and bottom rails should match and there should be no twists. Loosen the top rail by pulling fabric back through rings to create space to put baby in. Tighten the bottom rail so it is snug against you. The majority of work done tightening the bottom rail should be done before you place baby in, not after.

Putting baby in the sling

Once the preparatory work is completed it is time to put your child in the sling. Do not rush this point. You do not want to undo the hardwork you have done in preparing the sling.

Supporting babies weight with one hand under his bottom, use the other to reach up  from bottom of pouch to find his feet and guide him in.

 

Let him sit on the unspread pouch before bringing fabric up his back. At this point check where rings have dropped to. If too low lift babies weight and reposition the rings before letting baby sit on unspread pouch again.

With thanks to Wrapamore

Before spreading ensure the fabric is in both knee pits and that babies bottom is lower than their knees.

Keeping on hand on babies bottom bring fabric over their back. For a small baby the top rail should come up to their neck. Tightening a ring sling it is made easier by having the slack brought as close to the rings as possible. Ensure all slack is brought to the rings on both top and bottom rails.

  

Direction of tightening

Once the ring sling is threaded, baby has been seated in it and the fabric spread over their back it is time to tighten it. The fact the tail hangs towards to floor makes it logical to think you need to tighten by pulling the fabric in this direction, you do not. It is also common for people to take the tail as a rope and pull on it all in one go. Fabric is not a rope and has thousands of individual threads which should be adjusted separately.

Tightening any sling requires the fabric to be taken to the tightening system. In this case the rings. Then this slack needs to be removed in the direction it came from. The round shape of a sling ring makes can make it difficult for us to think about straight lines and where to adjust.  When working with parents I often talk about how a sling ring is like the sun. Its rays go in straight lines from several points. A sling ring is no different. I have taken a sling ring and drawn straight lines out from several points to illustrate.

     

You will need to tighten the top, middle and bottom of the ring sling, in fact anywhere there is slack. The most slack is likely to be on top rail where we loosened the pouch to get baby in. The least slack will be on the bottom rail which we had pre-tightened.  When tightening you must lift and support babies weight with one hand to remove the effect of gravity pulling their weight to the floor. By lifting their weight you will find it much easier to tighten. Then adjust the parts of ring sling where there is slack (top, middle, bottom)  by taking it in the direction it came from. You may need to repeat this several times in order to remove all slack.

Support babies weight underneath their bottom

Remove slack working from top rail to bottom but pulling in direction fabric came from

Support the weight of baby at all times with hand, wrist or forearm

Support baby under their bottom as you tighten. With thanks to Sheffield Sling Surgery - image featuring Kiri of Carry ar Kid

With thanks to Sheffield Sling Surgery – image featuring Kiri of Carry ar Kid

Here you can see the top rail is nice and snug against baby, his natural curves are maintained in a j-shape and fabric is in knee pits. He is in a sitting position with a tilted pelvis and the fabric hammocked between his legs.

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